Monday, August 25, 2014

Un-Necessary Pressure

I have a lot of young readers, followers, subscribers - however you want to put it and I was thinking the other day of topics that I wish someone had sat me down and talked to me about it, one of which being un-necessary pressures. So, I thought I would write something that you could turn to when you need a little bit of guidance or advice, or some ramblings about it... hey, I have no idea how this is going to turn out. In your early teens, responsibility and making your choices of what you want to do in the future is extremely scary. You have to decide what you want to do forever at the age of 13, where only a few years before that, I was convinced I was going to be prime minister! It's no surprise that you feel as if it's creeping up on you, constantly on your mind and pressurising you to make a decision and you just can't relax! However, it's not only this you've got to deal with, but things like starting a new school or new school year, your first kiss, your first important exam or your first boyfriend! And you have no idea if you can deal with all this 'stuff' on your plate. If this is the case, do not panic. In hindsight, this will all seem nothing compared to the stuff your 20 year-old self has to deal with, therefore, don't feel like you have to give up because all of these hurdles teen life has thrown at you. Find ways to jump over them and don't stress about it. I wish, really wish I'd been able to tell myself this when I was a younger teen.. (i'm nineteen in two days, so I'm still a teen.. but an older one!)

When you properly think about it, these issues or problems really aren't as important as we think they are. Obviously, there are so many different things that could be happening to a young person, but i'll touch on a couple of things that I wish I'd been told. 

  • Don't worry about your first day of school/college/uni, everybody is or most people are in the exact same boat as you. Nobody is looking at you or watching you, they are more interested in finding where their class is or what's for lunch. Don't worry about making friends or not making friends, it'll happen. Just concentrate on easing your way through the day and get to know people when you can, start finding your way, make a good impression - relax. 

  • It's no secret that humans want to be loved and crave affection. When you're a teenager and your hormones are running around like crazy, your head can go astray and your hormones like to play. Also, just because everyone else is doing things or getting boyfriends/girlfriends, it doesn't mean that you have to. I think that as I started a new school and was the new girl, I felt as if I needed a boyfriend to make me seem part of the school and no longer new - weird theory, I know. Put yourself first and do what you want to do. Don't rush romance. Looking back, I really wish I hadn't gone out with some people, some occasions it would be for three weeks and I'd get so upset, but looking back I think 'wow, you did me a favour'. Plus, there are more important things to be focusing on. 

  • Similar to relationships, don't think you need to try alcohol, smoking or drugs because people you know are doing it. In the UK, it's illegal for you to drink if you're under 18 anyway, I think you have to be 16 to smoke and drugs just are a bit of a no-go in my opinion. I also found that my parents were much more open to me drinking when I wasn't doing it 24/7 and saw that I was responsible. It's so unhealthy to be intoxicating your body with alcohol, tobacco and drugs, which could lead to you being very ill. So, if you see or know somebody doing it, don't think you should do it too, if your friends try and persuade you and you refuse, perhaps you should re-consider whether they've got your best interests at heart.  

These are events or situations that you're likely to face at some point in your life and at the time, you're going to think it's the end of the world, but seriously don't worry. These are somethings that you don't need to feel pressurised to do or stress about. Once you experience one of these things, then it's super easy and you relax - try not to over-think things and work yourself up. There are always going to be things that will be there to challenge you and pressurise you, but just try and relax and put on some fancy dress. 


1 comment

  1. Great advice, I'd also add, don't concern yourself with the opinions of others. When your young you can tend to worry what everybody thinks and try to only care about what the people who matter think. Like your best friend or you brother.


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